“How could this have happened? We’ve planned for weeks and must drastically change the plans. Answer: “No surprise here. Things happen and it seems almost more so when you’ve invested time constructing the perfect agenda!” Sound familiar? Whether it’s creating a travel itinerary, for example, or mapping a well thought-out meeting, unforeseen circumstances intercede. … Read more
Not too long ago while in the pool there was another “swimmer” walking down the lane and wearing a face mask and snorkel, examining the water and pool bottom with every step. To the chagrin of the other swimmers, he was looking for debris. His mature age played a factor as walking was less strenuous … Read more
Waiting hours on a runway for “de-icing”, standing in three different lines to check odd-sized luggage or sitting squeezed in a middle seat… these are the times we say to ourselves, “It is what it is”. Logistics might go awry. Like Steve Martin in the movie, “Trains, Planes and Automobiles” we end up in … Read more
Mouthing Off! It feels as if firing off a verbal barrage has become socially acceptable, especially among politicians (“He’s a Mexican”, “You’re fired”, “He’s Deplorable”…he did that, she did that…). CBS responded a few weeks back to a “mouthing off” episode by dismissing the errant employee (“I’m actually not even sympathetic (to the Las Vegas … Read more
Sometimes we go through tough times in a relationship made worse by bad things said between two people or not. We don’t like our manager, for example. Differences seem irreconcilable. There’s little dialog. Yet if reconciling feels right to us, it is possible to find a new beginning. In a working relationship we need to especially keep the … Read more
When crossing a street we hold tightly to the small hands of our children. We steadfastly want to protect them and bolster their sense of security. Holding tightly is analogous to “standing firm” in conversations. Our children are precious. So are you! Think about a time when you had to communicate something difficult or … Read more
It feels aggravating, even rude, to be told, “Take a breath”, “Calm down”, “Chill”! Even so… the request during a heated conversation, in whatever form, is often spot on! We need to calm down. Our mind’s perception rarely provides a full picture, especially if there’s tension. If we take a moment to quiet ourselves, even … Read more
Undoubtedly we will disagree with people. For whatever reason, we don’t see “eye- to-eye”. Around the table, we struggle to thoughtfully engage with our perceived adversaries. During an election year differences feel especially heightened, limiting the depth of our interactions. In our minds, consciously or subconsciously, we’ve already decided that meaningful conversations aren’t possible. Why … Read more