Finding a Place At The Table

It’s intimidating to enter a room as the new employee or guest when people already know one another. Conversation is buzzing and you look around wondering how to make a graceful entrance. There doesn’t seem to be a place to sit other than at the end of the table! You don’t want to interrupt. “Breaking … Read more

Why “Hola” is Easy!

In Mexico last week, we “hola”-ed everywhere and conversation flowed. With a friendly “Hola”, interacting with new people became easy. What is it about travelling that opens us to conversing with strangers? How might we incorporate a “traveler” mentality into our daily interactions? Oh, to be on vacation all the time! Yes, time was on … Read more

The Invitation for Every Meeting

At a recent cross-cultural, cross-faith event, hosts enthusiastically met each attendee at the door. Guests were coming together from different religious backgrounds and we wanted our greeting to put them at ease. For some it was the first time to be in a church. The sincere welcome created immediate comfort. How we invite someone “to … Read more

Conversing with The Elephant in the Room

It’s almost impossible these days not to engage in discussion about current events. Some of us have even joined protests to find our voice. Yet, concurrently many fear recrimination and remain silent. Silence might be interpreted as acceptance of the new status quo. Unfortunately, we might never know. Talking about issues is the “Elephant in … Read more

Complaining is a Non-Starter (for Conversation)

Gifts can come from strange places. My husband recently suffered a second injury within ten months of tearing his Achilles tendon. Despite the pain, he doesn’t complain. He’s focused, instead, on recovering and living! His calm demeanor has helped me stop my own complaining and settle into a new temporary routine. Eliminating the incessant, fretful … Read more

Clear Mind, Clear Conversation

It’s always been a struggle to maintain a clutter free desk. Even in college I had a Peanuts’ sign that read “A messy desk is a sign of an uncluttered mind”. Not true. A recent study, however, found that a messy desk might, in fact, indicate creativity and innovative thinking. Albert Einstein is quoted as … Read more

Celebrate 2017 Confabs

Imagine if every week we conversed about one question, exploring, contemplating, listening, sharing, pausing and, most of all, enjoying each other’s perspectives.The rewards of asking an intentional question every week would be huge.Sometimes we just want to ask questions so that we can understand what’s going on in a friend or loved one’s life! Ask … Read more

Conversation Tips from a New England Winter

New England winters can be treacherous! Nor’easters bring astounding amounts of snow, especially to the Boston area, fueled by ocean air and low barometric pressure. Fierce winds batter shutters and houses creak! About ten years ago my family and I experienced a ferocious winter in Hingham, MA. At first, it seemed that everyone was a … Read more

Conversations When Meeting for the First Time

This past week Obama and Trump met for the first time. What? How could that be? They had never met before? No wonder their meeting lasted ninety minutes. Until this first rendezvous, information about each other was based on generalities, negative stereotypes and “knowledge” sourced from other people’s opinions. Although the recent campaign rhetoric pains … Read more

The Conversation Café Unleashed

Last July my husband and I attended our first TEDxMileHigh conference, “Make + Believe”. The experience was awe-inspiring. The dynamic speakers gave us much to digest and mull over that truly our brains ached. During the breaks Jay and I headed outside for fresh air, Italian sodas (thank you Backyard Soda Company) and, most importantly, … Read more